People pursue counseling for a variety of reasons. Some may enter therapy to address major life changes, such as divorce or the loss of a loved one, and others may seek help in managing conditions, like depression and anxiety. There’s a common misconception that people who go to therapy are “crazy,” when in fact, most therapy clients are ordinary people struggling with common, everyday issues.
Many people seek counseling because they have identified specific goals or issues that they wish to work on. Others may be encouraged by family, friends, or medical professionals to seek help, and in some cases, a person may be mandated to attend therapy as part of a court ruling or by a parent or guardian (if the person is a minor).
But, whatever the reason, it takes courage to attend counselling, and it takes commitment to see it through.
Sometimes people confuse counselling with advice-giving. Advice giving is mainly a one-way exchange, such as offering an opinion or rendering a judgement. This is not counselling, however.
Counselling is a two-way collaborative exchange, a supportive relationship, that enables clients to explore their issues freely, to understand their need for action, and to enable them to take appropriate action.
As a professional counsellor, I value creating such a relationship, which I believe is the key ingredient to fostering personal growth and real change. Clients have said, they find me easy to talk to, that I am a calming influence, supportive, non-judgmental, compassionate, perceptive, honest, challenging and, at times, humorous.
These are some more common issues addressed in counseling: depression and anxiety, conflict in relationships, low self-esteem, loneliness, trust issues, guilt and shame, sexual and physical abuse, grief and loss, addictions, anger, stress, boundary issues, feeling stuck, life transitions, separation and divorce, spirituality, etc.
If you click on the ‘Specialities’ tab, you will find some of the issues and areas which are my specialities.