A Conversation To Build Trust

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If we understand the components of trust (i.e. boundaries, reliability, accountability, etc.) we can better identify and communicate where we are hurt or in need of more trust. This will help begin a healthful and non-threatening conversation with our partner, friend or family member.

In fact, this could alter our relationships, because it gives us a common language and understanding of the components of trust. Sometimes we can’t quite put our finger on why we feel off, but the inventory below gives us a structure to pin point what isn’t working quite right, and so begins a conversation.

Boundaries: You respect my boundaries, and when you’re not clear about what’s okay and not okay, you ask. You’re willing to say no and you ask for what you need.

Their strengths: _______________________________________________________________

Their opportunities for growth: ___________________________________________________

My strengths: _________________________________________________________________

My opportunities for growth: ____________________________________________________

Reliability: You do what you say you’ll do. This means staying aware of your competencies and limitations so you don’t over-promise and are able to deliver on commitments and balance competing priorities.

Their strengths: _______________________________________________________________

Their opportunities for growth: __________________________________________________

My strengths:
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My opportunities for growth: ___________________________________________________

Accountability: You own your mistakes, apologize, and make amends. You don’t blame others for your mistakes and when you need to hold others accountable you do so honestly and with respect.

Their strengths: ______________________________________________________________

Their opportunities for growth: _________________________________________________

My strengths: _______________________________________________________________

My opportunities for growth: __________________________________________________

Vault: You don’t share information or experiences that are not yours to share. I need to know that my confidences are kept, and that you’re not sharing with me any information about other people that should be confidential.

Their strengths: ______________________________________________________________

Their opportunities for growth: _________________________________________________

My strengths: _______________________________________________________________

My opportunities for growth: __________________________________________________

Integrity: You choose courage over comfort. You choose what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy. And you choose to practice your values rather than simply professing them.

Their strengths: _____________________________________________________________

Their opportunities for growth: ________________________________________________

My strengths: ______________________________________________________________

My opportunities for growth: _________________________________________________

Non-judgment: I can ask for what I need, and you can ask for what you need. We can talk about how we feel without judgment.

Their strengths: ____________________________________________________________

Their opportunities for growth: _______________________________________________

My strengths: _____________________________________________________________

My opportunities for growth: ________________________________________________

Generosity: You extend the most generous interpretation possible to the intentions, words, and actions of others.

Their strengths: ___________________________________________________________

Their opportunities for growth: ______________________________________________

My strengths: ____________________________________________________________

My opportunities for growth: _______________________________________________

 

Until next time …

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